When I saw this photo, it quickly brought to mind a conflict I am currently experiencing with another; what followed were thoughts about the necessity of compassion both for the other, and myself. In feeling the (perceived) hostility from the other, I want to dig deep and entrench the other in understanding, compassion, and love, for this is the only way to "win" the battle. My first reaction to this hostility and anger is one of fear and defense, for the actions of the other remind me of past toxic presences in my life; those that forced compliance, silence, and swallowing of emotion through manipulation and threat. I feel my insides wanting to cower and withdraw. Then I realize that the reaction I am projecting on them is simply a reflection of something in myself that needs attending. So as this other points and accuses, I realize that I am simply a reflection of something in them self that they do not yet see--and may never see or acknowledge--so I can only change my thoughts and beliefs about them and the situation.
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This is when I remember that their thoughts are about them, I won't take their words personally. I will surround them with thoughts of love, and do my best to empathize with their feelings and situation. My desire is to resolve the conflict in the most non-violent way possible, speak my truth with love, and not hide in fear of their overt rage, no matter how it terrifies me. I will do my best to grow and learn from this situation, hoping that it can improve both our lives.
I also see, that since they so resemble a very toxic person from my past, that obviously my business is incomplete and my work unfinished from that past situation; this person will show up again and again and again in my life until I figure out how to deal with them in a functional manner, learn what I need to learn, and stop drawing that energy into my life. Last time, I avoided it and didn't learn how to deal with that type of person, so now, I get another chance. Therefore, I am grateful that I am open-minded and open-hearted enough to do so!
My hope is to remain in the middle, go with the flow, and disallow my defense mechanisms to engage. The next time I meet this foe, I will recognize them instantly, and either prevent their entrance into my life, or as they push, simply step back and let their own force work in my favor.
There's the answer! As they push, I will simply step back, avert the blow, and their own movement will create my defense.
It's Wu Wei. (Do nothing)
It's Tao. (Balance)
It's Kung Fu. (Defense in non-defending)
...is practicing gratitude every day for 365 days. Began on April 22, 2016, let's see how life changes over the course of this next year!