Although I am an anti-fan of Mike Tyson, he was quoted saying: "Everyone has a plan until they get hit," referring to boxing strategy. In looking at ways to cope with challenges, this statement really struck me (literary device: pun). I make plans to deal with stress and have tools for emotional resilience and self-compassion; but what if I can't use them? What if I get knocked down ("I've fallen and I can't get up!" LOL), and for whatever reason, revert to old habits instead of healthy self-compassion? Sometimes, circumstances are so overwhelming, even non-traumatized humans are unable to react with perfect well-adjustment (breathe deep, pause, don't take things personally, take a break, take a bath, practice self-care, blah, blah, blah ad nauseum infinitum!).
With perspicacity, I realize I need to plan for the KO, because it's going to come, just like the get-back-up will come. Not to live in dread with a Go Bag (literary device: hyperbole), but to have a plan for that day when I can't immediately get back up, instead of thinking--mistakenly--that I can always deal. As per usual, it starts with being mindfully aware and accepting the pain of the knock down, then just sitting with it, knowing it will pass at some point--not necessarily on my timeline. Then from there...
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진아 吉娜 진아
... is studying and practicing the philosophies Taoism, QiGong, Taiji, and Shaolin Kungfu.